Once upon a time I was a size 6 in my teenage days and early twenties, thereafter I graduated to a size 8, then to between a size 8 and a size small 10( if there’s any size called a “small 10”) And now? I am a whooping 12.

I remember  most men if not all always consider the physical appearance of their would-be wife in terms of her size. This is common among men who prefer the slim women to the larger women.  Some men even go as far as checking out the mother of their bride just to be sure that their bride wouldn’t grow fat.

Show me her mother and I will tell you how she would look in the future.

Serious! I had friends back then who said this and made vigorous efforts to check the size of their woman’s mother.

They were a stickler for the sliminess. I was a slim girl/woman by all standard  and I always got the pity stare and the whispered comments…“don’t worry when you have kids you will add weight.”

As an intellectual, the stress of reading did not help matters, then work started and as an extremist I wanted the best. I eventually got married and remained slim even after my first baby. It was at that point, I knew I would never be fat. I ate everything  that came my way and as a self acclaimed cake lover, yep I ate chunks of cakes with malt to wash it down. It was a daily ritual. I ended up having fat in my belly, but I could still fit into size 8 and 10 cloths.

Fast forward to second child and I am literally screaming. I know to the big ones out there, being a size 12 is nothing but for me, it is everything. I long for my size 10 days when my cheeks are not puffy. And I do hope to get there.

I do know for sure that I am not alone and a lot of women are also struggling with their size after childbirth. While some women have been struggling with their size all their life.
Humans are vain, let us face it, it’s part of our make up as human beings. Even the over religious can also be vain. We all want to look good, we all want to smell nice and we all want to be the center of attention. So I imagine the horror we feel when we wake up one morning and suddenly realize our slim shape has developed into a shapeless or fatter version of it.
Trust me, fat do come overnight especially for women who just had been delivered of a baby. Am not talking about the celebrity delivery. Save it!  I am talking about average women like us. Women who just go about their daily lives with no self consciousness of adding weight. Women who live freely because they thought nature has given them “the perfect slim body.”

It happened to me on the birth of  my second child. And I kept wondering each time I see myself in the mirror. Is this all me? Wow!

P.S . My Mom is happy about it, she says it makes me look like a human being. All her life she has been looking for fat like some women out there. I never dreamt of becoming fat, I only wanted a killer  shape like that of  Queen Bey. *wink*

Now  I worry that I might be a 14 in the near future, although people keep saying that I would shed the weight. I desperately  want to believe them.

For now a 12 looks good on me,  it’s made me more shapely save for the big belly #postdelivery (hey, that’s gist for another day).

By the way, I hear these days that calling someone fat is discriminatory o!  So all those people run into me and say “You have grown fat”  You are discriminating me o!!!

Seriously,  in the end I am forced to conclude that being fleshy or fat or whatever modest name we would like to call it can also be sexy too.  As long as you are not obese, don’t worry too much about it. But if you are obese, hit the gym or get some herbs to burn down the fat.

And if you are like me, not too fat or fleshy, watch what you eat, don’t be obsessed with it except it is in your family genes. You will definitely get your shape back. I shall hint you when I do shed some kgs.
But mostly importantly, it is healthy to add a little fat as you grow older and lose it as you become way way older.


By floramichaels

Hi, I am Flora Ngo-Martins. I love writing and I am passionate about fashion, stories, news and food. Sometimes I get a little bit serious but that's alright, I can also be mischievous. I also like to analyse stuffs people do and sometimes judge.*wink* Most of all, I love to influence the lives of people positively and tell people's stories from a totally different perspective. Feel free to contact me if you have any suggestions or....

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