We all have the comparison syndrome. When a colleague buys a car or a house, tongues start wagging either from your family or other colleagues. They sow the seed of bitterness and discord. They make you hate for no just reason.
The famous phrases are:
“Are both of you not working in the same office, and he has bought a car?”
“Does he have two heads? He has a house, did you guys not attend the same school?”
“Why can’t you be like your mates who have bought their wives cars?”
“All your mates are married except you, is there something wrong with you?”
While it might seem natural for you to listen to this comparison analysis and even sometimes tell yourself these things. Do know that everyone’s idea of success and satisfaction in life is very different. For your colleague, a car was all he or she dreamt of owing all his or her life.
For your friend who bought a house, perharps it is what makes him feel like a man.
They may still have other sectors of their lives which they are unfulfilled or unsuccessful. Could be their relationship with their in-laws is a flop or their relationship with their wives is a flop. It could also be that they are in debt because of that car or house they bought.
Now, it is not entirely wrong to once in a while see what your peers are doing and get encouraged by it, but the blunder would be to compare yourself with them. Rather, carefully write out your goals in life and work towards it. Remember, he who laughs last laughs best.
Know it today that the perceived success of your peers must never be the yardstick for your own success.